Confronting an abuser


Should I do it? 

Confronting abusers is an important part of preventing further Gender-Based Violence, because abusive behaviour won’t disappear on its own. You don’t have to do this alone, there are services in your community to assist in combatting toxic masculinities and abusive behaviours.
Never confront an abuser if they are under the influence of drugs or alcohol, if they are in a dangerous or emotional state, or if there are children nearby that could get caught in the crossfire.


Abusers denying their behaviours

  • Abusers will often try to reduce the impact of their behaviour when explaining their actions
  • They could say that it isn’t that bad, or even blame the victim
  • When abusers deny their behaviour, and shift the responsibility, it is best to seek outside assistance
  • When you communicate with an abuser, keep your conversation focused on family safety and wellbeing
If you are worried about your safety at home, or if you are worried about the wellbeing of someone you know, speak up, speak out!

  • POLICE:                                                112 / 10111
  • STOP GBV HELPLINE:                       0800 150 150
  • GBV CRISIS CENTRE:                        0800 428 428
  • CHILDLINE:                                         0800 055 555
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